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Of Seat Thieves and Wise Women by Monique Brantly PDF Print E-mail
Written by Foresight   
Thursday, 11 October 2007
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It was a regular Tuesday late afternoon. I had finished a long day of work and on the subway ride home, I was fortunate enough to have secured a coveted rush hour seat as soon as I boarded. I rode no more than a couple of stops when a little sweet-faced older Asian woman stepped into the car through the doors closest to me with the aid of a cane.

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It took me 2.5 seconds to figure out that the two able-bodied young men sitting nearby were engrossed in pretending that their eyes suddenly no longer worked and had absolutely no intention of relinquishing their seat for this poor wobbling woman. So I, of course, immediately hopped up from my seat and offered it to her. Her smile was so warm and gracious that even now, a year later, her exact expression and how good it made me feel lives vividly in my memory.

As she inched her way the 3 feet distance between where she stood and her final destination, everyone in the immediate vicinity, by now, knew that it had been set aside specifically for her. Meanwhile, a tall, stout, middle-aged West African (I think) woman who had apparently been lurking enviously behind me, shoved past a man in her way and stealthily slid and plopped down into the seat with a disgruntled huff. Everyone stood silent in amazed disbelief. I allowed myself to respond instinctively by turning around to look this woman dead in her face as if she were the craziest sight I had ever laid eyes on. My expression clearly begged for an explanation for her audacious little stunt and with another huff she nestled her rotund body further into the seat with a shimmy, defiantly turned her head away and proclaimed, “I was heeya fuhst!” Apparently this woman felt completely justified in her actions and no amount of public disapproval from her onlookers was going to change her mind.

Luckily, this little fiasco caught the attention of one of the previously “blind” young men that was sitting next to me and he quickly jumped up to help the old woman into his seat instead. We all gave a few more reproaching mumbles and looks towards the irreverent seat thief, but what quickly quelled my irritation was a last glance at the little Asian woman. She was just as peaceful and gracious amidst this discord as she was when she first walked into the car and I offered her my seat.

I originally thought that I would use this story to explore the idea of modern chivalry (or lack there of), but the story of the little sweet-faced lady I met on the subway that day is most importantly about a lesson in patience, positive energy and wisdom. Why waste time stressing over the seat thieves you encounter in life when you can foster, perhaps with something as simple as a warm smile, more positive outcomes for yourself and all those around you? This woman’s knowledge of this was infectious for me and I hope that sharing her story may do the same for you.

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written by zamaih , October 11, 2007
Good story. Its always good to stay positive even in the most negative situations. Positive people are infectious. I know Karma got that seat stealer as soon as she stepped off that subway!!!
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written by Beautiful1June , October 13, 2007
Monique, its hard for me to understand how I can love and hate you so much all at the same time. I could hear you doing that West African accent so well. That comment really made me miss you all of a sudden. Anyway, great story. Its good to see that some of these young people still have some sense :)
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written by TPickens , October 16, 2007
thanks monique!
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written by Renee , October 18, 2007
You were raised well monique, it is good to know that people stiill hold basic right and wrong values intact. It seem as a whole, that seniors are no longer valued or respected. The warmth of your story regenerates that value and shows that chivarly is not dead. The inner strenght and and obvious wisdom of the older woman that again as a whole, they deserve. There is still a whole lot that can be learned about life from them. Great story. yes I am infected.
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written by craig wise , October 19, 2007
good writing
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written by La'VERN Allen , October 19, 2007
It was a good story, but a sad realization of what our society has become. For me, it does not take me 2 seconds to realize that I should give up my seat. I thank my parents for that by instilling in me respect and honor to our elderly. I loved my parents so I would have natuarally saw my mother or father in that elderly person would have wanted anyone to get up without having to think about it. As far a chivalry, goes, I got to observe tons of it when I was stationed in the DC area during the Million Man March. I felt proud to be a black man that day. Fathers were setting the example to their sons by giving up their seats to the elderly, women, and children while explaining their obligation as respectable young men. Again, I can definitely relate to this.
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written by Bruce , October 19, 2007
We have to continue to challenge for strength of and commitment to community, old and young. I'm proud to know you have the courage to recognize that persistence, a positive eye, and yes patience are required. Well done!
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written by Clay , October 19, 2007
Positive energy and Wisdom is something we need more examples of, of course. But we also need more lessons on character like that which was shown by the young woman getting up in the first place. So we got 2 lesson in one beautifully written story. Keep writing!!!
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written by MKelly , October 19, 2007
Yes, you could have taken your experience and pulled many things from it....I agree with your choice. It takes people like you and her, young and old to pass along life lessons that you pick up along the way. Her display of patience is surely something she learned and your display of kindness was also learned. Thank you.
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written by Ernestine , October 19, 2007
Monique. I Love you so much and it makes me feel so proud that your up-bringing is not forgottenn or lost regardless of the actions or non actions of others and that it rubs off on some others when they see the good deed of yours.
As the saying goes ...YOU DO THE RIGHT THING
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written by C. Nieves , October 19, 2007
What a wonderful young women you have become. It is apparent in your writing and in how you choose to live your life. Know that I love you and although we don't talk much, I talk about you often.
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written by Paula Toney-Brooks , October 19, 2007
Monique: Even for those of us who know in our hearts that we would have done exactly as you did, I think it is very beneficial for us all to read stories such as this to simply reinforce our own values. Your writing is excellent! I never experienced a subway ride - until today. Your words put me right there with you - that, my friend, is some goooooooooooood writing. Keep up the wonderful work and I look forward to reading your next pievce of work! Peace Out!!
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written by ReRe , October 20, 2007
This is a GREAT story and it is something I witness from time to time. You are an insightful storyteller. You should certainly write more, maybe do a novel one day because I could see every little detail in what you wrote above.
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written by nic baez , October 20, 2007
seat thieves! what a great analogy of those who make illusions in our lives that leave us no where but stressed! :) great story
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written by janpete , October 21, 2007
A very insightful story as a comment on human interacion in the world today. I would be interested in your thoughts as to the young man who eventually came to do the right thing.
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written by Linda , October 21, 2007
This is an interesting story that may be applied to many experiences. I enjoyed the story and your writing skills. Unfortunately, we live in such a society where speaking out loud is the less desiirable thing to do. I'm happy the young man in your story "got" the non-verbal message and responded appropriately.
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written by Teeboyz , October 22, 2007
This is a very interesting and all too familiar story....this type of behavior happens all the time. I know you did a wonderful thing that day and I was touched and now my outlook will be different. I am humbled that my sons are quick to get up and offer their seats to not only elderly women, but a woman in gerneral and elderly men.
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written by Mary , October 22, 2007
WOW! Heart felt, you pulled me into the story, as though, I was right there. You are awesome. Thanks
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written by Bolanle , October 23, 2007
That was wonderful! Keep that inspiring perspective; it will take you far.
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written by Joe Roberts , October 27, 2007
Monique, a delightful story and one of life's important lessons. For a brief moment I felt as if I was there watching these events unfold in front of me. Please take us on another journey soon.
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