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Oran "Juice" Jones - The Rain

Such sad, sad stories, but unfortunately, scenarios like these happen everyday. Snooping, spying, or setting a partner up is something that many women and men admit doing at some point in their life. There comes a time in every relationship where trust and your partner’s relationships with the opposite sex become an issue. Every person deals with insecurity in their relationship differently but there are those who resort to extreme measures and invade their partner’s privacy to find an “answer” to this insecurity. This sort of action is almost guaranteed to end in disaster.

Don’t get me wrong, everyone (women in particular), should pay attention to their instincts, that gut feeling that your man/woman is cheating or the woman that pretends to be a friend is really trying to take your place as wifey. But these instincts should be addressed in a healthy way by talking to your significant other about why you feel this way. Accusing your partner of cheating or spying on them only pushes them away and makes it harder for them to deal with your shenanigans. Sure the prospect of finding out more about his ex-girlfriend or seeing what he and his boys really talk about when you’re not around seems exciting at first, but chances are you won’t be ready for the truth. Either you will find out that your honey is a saint and has been faithful all along, in which case you’ll feel like a jerk for suspecting them in the first place. Or…you’ll find out the truth, that they have been cheating all along, and “You can’t handle the truth!”

If you are in a relationship where you have such little trust in your boyfriend/girlfriend that you have to play detective to get answers; most likely you are A) suspect yourself and afraid that your significant other is creeping like you; B) Have trust issues caused by a past relationship or family history and need to fly solo until you work them out; or C) A drama queen/king that finds excitement in this sort of activity and will never be happy in a normal, healthy relationship. (This is also usually a result of letter B). If you can’t fully trust your partner, WHY ARE YOU IN THE RELATIONSHIP? A relationship without trust isn’t a relationship at all.

Would you hang out with a friend you think is going to backstab you everyday? I know it is easier said than done to leave someone you love but eventually you have to walk away from a situation in which you feel that you are not good enough and become insecure. And from the perspective of the accused, when they find out that their boyfriend or girlfriend has been going through their things because they are insecure and don’t trust them, all the trust they had for their private investigator mate is lost and the relationship is doomed. So the next time you get the urge to spy on your boo, ask yourself why you want to do it, stop, and schedule a time to have a long talk with your honey. Because unless you’re Oran "Juice" Jones, you’ll be the one walking alone in the rain.

Comments (5)

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written by Tasha , September 04, 2007

I hear what you're saying girl but its so hard to not check a phone that's sitting there staring you right in the face! lol. I think most women have trust issues because these men are out here acting ridiculous and now we have to worry about them being trapped in the closet too! So while I admire a woman that doesn't have to spy and worry about her man, that woman sure isn't me!

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written by sherina , September 04, 2007

Yeah man relationships are crazy especially when you don't have trust. The best way to be in a relationship is to be as open as possible. Your partner should be your best friend, the person you tell everything to. But yeah trusting someone with your heart is hard... Anyway love the blog

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written by Chris , September 04, 2007

so i had 2 have my input... to many relationships are based these days over honesty and telling the truth but we forget the main concept which is being loyal... all you should ask of your partner is to be loyal and everything else falls into place because we all want our partner to be honest but then again we all know that "the truth hurts" so if you and your partner just agree to be loyal and true to one another there's no need to ever question ones wrong doings... but in today's time a WOMAN'S INSECURITY is more lethal than the death penalty... when a woman's mind starts to wonder its worse than thinking the world is coming to an end... men and women should be secure enough with themselves to know that there giving 110% to there partner that there is no need for them to go else where and if they do stoop low enough to go outside of a happy home don't look at it as if you did something wrong just know that's a sign from the man upstairs that he has someone else in store for you that's 110% better... people these days are either scared of love or thirsty for love that they settle for anyone but i know at the end of the day I'll rather have my heart broken 10000 times thinking i was in love to find that one true love that is out there for me....

that's why Ta-Ta i love you 16 years strong.....

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written by bridwash , September 04, 2007

Although trusting someone is hard, it is the most important thing in a relationship. I can admit that i have looked through my boyfriends phone. I agree that if there is a problem, he/she should sit down and discuss it-it makes things way easier!!

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written by TPickens , September 04, 2007

not that I condone Renee's behavior but it looks like Oran 'Juice' Jones needs to read Drew Stewart's latest blog... lol

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