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| You’re Ghetto Trash! by Tim Boyd |
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| Written by Foresight | |
| Wednesday, 14 November 2007 | |
But, after I made my comment, to my surprise, she began to attack me personally! She criticized the way I talked and conducted myself, claiming that people in my family had children as teenagers, that I was trash, and that she wasn’t like me and my family. Mind you, she really knows nothing about my family or me. So after bearing the brunt of the barrage of insults I begin to react. But I was confused because I always thought it would be a white person who would attack me in this way but yet it was an older black woman. Not only was she a black woman, but the same black woman who I overhead in an earlier conversation claim that she was “ghetto” while describing the way she and her family conducted themselves at a public function. It upset me when I overheard this, but I didn’t want to get into a debate with a person who thinks acting with little class is a display of your "ghettoness” (I know that’s not a word, lol.) If you know me, then you know her comments really upset me because of the love, pride, and respect that I have for my family and me in regards to being “ghetto”. So I reacted by saying "how dear you say that to me." She then walked away said she wouldn’t "stoop to my level", I wanted to be where she is, and I was trash. My boss had to restrain me at that point because those words were hurtful and disrespectful to everything my mother raised me to be. So in turn I begin to act like what she described as "ghetto trash". In my mind, her calling me “ghetto trash” was just like calling me a nigger. (nigger = soulless scum of the earth. That’s the real white man definition.) I calmed down eventually and made it home. I then told my mother what happened and to my surprise again, she started to laugh! She then explained to me that I did exactly what she wanted me do, which was lose control and turn my patience and pride into anger. She then reminded me that we are from poverty and to proud of where we’re from. But, we are still educated and we still have class. My mother said there is no reason to be upset because the woman just embarrassed herself by making “classist” and racist remarks and acting with no class. That made me feel a lot better because it reminded me of all the times my late father would prepare me for situations like this. He told me no matter what anyone says I’m just as good and I should be just as proud of where I come from. He said it’s not the color of your skin or where you come from, but how you’re raised, how you conduct yourself, and the respect that you have for others and yourself. But he never taught me how to handle it coming from someone who looked just like me. Comments
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I'm glad you didn't kill her, Tim! I feel so sorry for her, its a shame that she's that old and still so dumb.
The whole time i'm reading this i'm like, "at work?!?" I didn't grow up poor, but my mother did... project/foodstamp poor at least, and she always taught me the same thing that your mother and father told you. Man, I would have had such an emotional response to some ignorance like that, I'm glad you were able to walk away and learn from it in the end. It's truly a shame how devisive disenfranchisment and discrimination can be, folks just fighting anything or anyone out of desperation for recognition and confidence.
 written by jeff johnson II , November 14, 2007
You cant worry about these ignoramuses homey. I used to get offended by shit like that also, but one day I had to understand that the white man is not God, and that you gotta measure yourself by a bar that you created yourself. These white folks have set every standard that black people buy into and it made that broad call you "ghetto trash" when you are indeed aren't. Black people really ain't got no business judging other black folks because at the day's end, we still aren't seen as equal to whites. We are westerners who speak English, drive cars and make money, so yeah....we ALL act white in a sense, but regardless of your education, clout, etc...you are still black, not white. There is NOTHING we can do to get away from being black, so that chick that called you that just ain't smart. Whether you are a supreme court justice and someone else works at a donut factory, you are still black. I don't care what Michelle and Barack say, Barack got secret service protection way before any other candidate because he is BLACK. Giuliani had a hit out on him a while back and don't even need that kind of security right now. Let her call you ghetto trash all she wants to, but even Bill Cosby couldn't buy NBC when he tried. They popped a cap in his son to send him a message about who is really running shit. I am actually a graduate of Morehouse and I had a very hard time adjusting for a few months (when I first got there) based off all of that social class b.s. they tried to instill in me. None of the guys I went to high school with really pursued college or anything like that, so it was hard for me to honestly view them as being shiftless and lazy just because they knew college wasn't where they wanted to go. We were still boys and I had love and respect for them based off of character and not necessarily because we were going to make the same choices in life. First thing I was told when I got to Morehouse was to wife up a Spelman chick, smut out a Clark chick, and only mess with Morris Brown girls if my game really wasn't tight. I didn't learn none of that shit from a white guy, I learned it from some of my counselors at New Student Orientation. Also, a lot of the ladies I was meeting from Clark either A) got denied entry to Spelman or B) were afraid to apply, so that gave a lot of them an inferiority complex. Sad shit, but it's real talk homey. I was mad insecure for a while because I felt the only way I would make it through Morehouse was to program myself to be an asshole. We had all these prestigious alumni and what not, but this school is situated smack in the middle of the hood. I knew that the school was there way before any of those housing projects, so I knew from the jump that people who graduated didn't invest much back into the community. That's mad dangerous. I honestly think black folks are other black folks worst enemy at this point. We let our communities fall apart because of a system we chose to embrace instead of one that we just adapted to. Anytime you got social division amongst folks that are the same race because of money, materials, etc. you gon have a lot of fucked up marriages, a lot of weed selling, and a lot of robbery at gunpoint. After desegregation man, our morals got thrown all out of place.
Ok so Tim don't kill me. Although she was COMPLETELY out of line, I can understand her frustration with the urban community. It's getting poorer and poorer while these jerks keep having children they can't support financially, emotionally, mentally and socially. She like many other blacks and hispanics are fed up with our so called peers that the older and more educated we become, the more we want to distance ourselves. You can't help people that don't want to helped and we're tried of being looked upon as a part of them. Homegirl you were talking about obviously had a complex for her to come at you like that without knowing you. She herself was ignorant and if anything I would have expected someone in the same work environment to try to align themselves with people that are similar to themselves. She was just putting on a show for whitey, lol. I'm sorry that happened to you.
she is just some dumb ass that put's on a show for these white people and tell them about her family dealings but at the same time she tries to make herself and counterpart seem different but i know her myself so i know what she is all about and her family don't know she is telling there business
are you more upset at the color of her skin or the fact of wha she said? if you close your eyes and just listened to what was being said, it doesn't matter who said it, but, that it was said at all. you are an individual and not a society, you were brought up with resect, morals and the sense of right from wrong. sure, some of the negative circumstances will propably be overcome, but, if the mold does not fit then brake the bicth. if she considers herself in a better class, than baby please do not become a part of it, disregard what her opinion is cause they like asswholes-we all got them and they only good for shitting-lol
Hey, what’s up everyone, this is Tim. Thanks for your comments on my blog. I appreciate the love. I wrote this blog to address certain concerns about society and “classist”and racist views of people of all colors. This is just a story about something that I have experience regarding the issue. It really didn’t affect me in the way you might think. It really just made me think and open my eyes to try to gain a greater perspective on the situation and it directly related to the world we all have to live in. I wanted to explore the idea of the Willie lynch theory and the possible lingering affects if any it might have on today’s society. Personally I can care less what someone of no importance whatsoever to me thinks. I know I was raised to be a man of integrity, character, and respect, so I’m fine looking at myself in the mirror, lol. As for what happen between me and the ignorant women in question, she wasn’t fed up with young black men or black culture of today. She made those remarks with the intent on making herself seem superior to the lower class black people of this country, attempting to make me feel inferior to someone of her so called “status”. She tried to devalue my existence as well as other people from the "ghetto" (Yiddish word for town) based upon racist and classist concepts despite being black herself. It’s just like the concept that I hear many blacks repeat. Chris Rock says there is a difference between a "black person and a nigger". I hate when people say that, lol. But that was the point I tried to make with this blog. I wanted to bring this issue to light and start a discussion about intraracial racism as well as good old regular racism.
written by jeff johnson II , November 15, 2007
Chris Rock says there is a difference between a "black person and a nigger".
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ That's probably why I haven't laughed at a Chris Rock joke since Pootie Tang. There may be a difference to black people, but to white folks...there isn't. black/nigger is pretty much one in the same to them. I never thought there was any malicious intent when a white man came up with that term for us....i just think they were just like those brown people from Africa = niggers, darkies, etc. That's the same reason why I never let that word bother me regardless to whose mouth it was coming from. I don't really identify with the word, so it has no emotional impact on me. Anyone who doesn't view themselves as a nigger shouldn't get upset if someone else calls them that. We all speak english and we didn't create any of the words that we use. Most words could probably offend someone if you seek out the origin of them. I mean, Aethiops means burnt faces in Greek and Ethiopians are fine with being called Ethiopians. For some reason, people like to believe that racism is like an outward action, but in reality....it's just a matter of what one believes rather than how they decide to act on their thoughts. Nooses being hung and verbal attacks is only racism at its most extreme, but it's not like it's the only way to confirm whether or not someone is racist. The same reason a black man may be able to get a job may be the same reason why he can't get one. Some of us are hired to fill a quota, some of us are not hired because that company may not want too many black employees. Reverse discrimination is real because I have seen it. Some companies don't want to deal with lawsuits and negative public attention by not having any minority employees, so they do what they feel like they must do to keep the heat away from them. I know plenty of folks who work at Coca Cola or wherever sitting at a cubicle and make 65,000 annually who don't really do shit. A lot of them are black women. If they got fired over some bullshit, they would probably pull the race card...but no one pulls the race card when they are given an opportunity to make money. If a black person gets hired for a job and believes they obtained the job solely off of having the necessary skills required, thats fine...but that would probably only really be true at the Department of Sanitation and not at Pfizer. At the days end, I kinda look at racism and biggotry a little different. I think white folks are moreso biggots than racists because a lot of them can't help but think that they are better than us. It's what they were taught indirectly and in some cases directly taught. It's what we were taught also, directly. I bet you know more people trying to live the American dream (Degree, House, Car, Money, etc.) than people who aren't. I know more black people trying to get there than white folks trying to get to where the avg. black person is. That's because they ain't never been taught to be like us. Sometimes, it even seems like a white person feels like they are doing you a favor by being your friend in the first place. They treat going to Compton or Bankhead like a Safari and the Police are the Rangers. It ain't really as simple as going to Africa and being able to find yourself, but I think there needs to be a limitation as to what a black person values. If our values are not our own, we are going to continue to disrespect and degrade people of our race over the way a person dresses, the car a person drives, the job a person has, their education, dialect, etc. I'm on my way home is the same thing as I'm finna go home...so if you understand what a person is saying, why does it really matter how they are saying it? Who in America actually speaks the King's English? Black people try to find too many differences between one another, but our similarities (especially to ohter races of people) far outweighs our differences.
I really don't have much more to say Tim. I told you how I felt on the subject on myspace this morning. It's mentalities like that of your coworker that keep us right where we are. Everyone else takes care of their own. As long as black people stay divided, we're always going to be at the bottom. I don't know what else to say about your coworker except that class isn't something that money can buy.
I think the young lady is right but as far as not liking criss rock he is funny haha!!!
Wow, Jeff Johnson.. you seem to have some built-up animosity toward white people. While you're on this tirade about how white people stereotype black people unfairly, maybe you should go back and examine some of your comments. This point is fairly self-explanatory to anyone who is rational, so I'll leave it there.
written by jeff johnson , November 19, 2007
to white chocolate,
you obviously read between lines instead of actually reading the lines. Nothing I wrote revealed me having any ill will towards white people. I'm just not as foolish as you would probably like me to be. I don't watch care bears or believe in unicorns either...so in my mind, eventhough all men (people) are supposedly created equal, i know that's not really the case. you probably do also. there are facts to back up everything i spoke on, but maybe you have a different perspective because either you are A) white or B) mixed. If you took offense to something, that wasn't really my intention, but if you have an issue with something i said.... address an actual statement that you disagree with rather than talking shit from a safe place. I don't do that "tough cyber guy" stuff.
House/Patio Nigga's like that don't even bother me anymore. You know they gotta put on a tapdance show when they get around others. I don't care how frustrated you are over shit, folk act like ths bullshit just started happening yesterday. Thats why im an individualist, every black person aint my brother or sister, and people like this yes massuh fits into that catagory.
good job boyd you need print this out and post it bulletin board at work for everyone to see
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