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Then there’s the “career” frame of mind. The key distinction between a job and a career is longevity. Just as you ascend the corporate ladder rung by rung, a healthy relationship goes through stages as you work towards the final plateau of a serious commitment.

In the article, A Job Vs. A Career: Deciding What You Really Need, Cynthia McMahon says that a career, “provides opportunities for advancement, allows you to challenge yourself and nurture your personal growth, and provides intrinsic satisfaction with what you do”. The same can be said for a real relationship. As you grow with your mate, you become more aware of your character flaws which can reveal themselves at the most inopportune moments. Self actualization is the intrinsic growth of what is already in you. Challenge yourself to change, not for your mate, but for you. Realize that becoming a better person will lend itself to all your different positions in life. Improving yourself will advance your status at work and in your relationship.

Another essential aspect of healthy relationship is the concept of being invaluable. There are numerous goals that need to be met in your employer’s corporation (your mate’s life). To establish yourself in the corporation, you must demonstrate a passion that no one can imitate or challenge because otherwise, you’re dispensable. A relationship (career) is a commitment to a goal. You will have bad days and you will face challenges, but nothing in this world worth having is easy to maintain. When it comes to reaching an objective, don’t manage the metric, manage the process. Stay on your career (relationship) path and expect the inevitable obstructions. Just have the stick-to-itiveness to work through your issues. Having a real relationship (career) requires some overtime every now and then.

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written by EscapeArtist , September 26, 2007

Nice one, cousin.

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written by Manez , September 26, 2007

Wordsmith.... You are a genius! I definitely agree with EVERYTHING you said! I'm excited about reading your next one! Much love for you! Be blessed with success!

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written by keperkin , September 26, 2007

I am definitely feeling it. I will share this with a few men I know...oh yeah, and some women too. Keep it up and drop some more wisdom on us!

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written by Ericka , September 26, 2007

Great job David!! I would have never thought to compare the two but you did an excellent job of doing so. Continue to challenge our parameters of thinking.

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written by LP , September 26, 2007

The analogy is perfect. The words are like you...it is the truth and it is so real.

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written by Scoop , September 26, 2007

Very insightful, Dave! Kudos to comparing the two things that matter most to us adults: love and careers.

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written by youngbuttermotherfucker , September 26, 2007

yes yes yes....this is the first of many insightful pieces to come i hope. good shit davidian.

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written by UNC-JDBound , September 26, 2007

Wonderful! I definitely agree... Might I add that you can't FORCE a career. Every relationship that "works" won't always be where you need to settle down... don't you think? But it sucks when you think you have found a career path, and unfortunately that is not where you are meant to be...

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written by zamaih , September 26, 2007

I love it! Very well written...."Jobs" are a complete waste of time. Keep your options open and continue to date if you're not ready to commit 100%. I'm a firm believer that you should only commit to someone if you can see yourself marrying them or they are husband/wife material.

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